Follow Up Profile Pictures

Georgie hit it right on. False advertising for pictures is the worst kind of dishonesty in the online dating world. I recently went to meet a guy for lunch and didn't recognize him as already being at the restaurant and sat down to wait for him. When he approached (I looked like my picture apparently) I completely had never seen him before and wondered if he had approached the wrong person. Please use the following for a rule of thumb no matter what your gender.


1. Make the picture current! Don't include pictures from your mission unless you have returned home in the last five years and still have your hair. Current means within the last six months.

2. Don't put pretty pictures of scenery with no people. That just makes us think you're too embarrassed to be in them.

3. We understand the kid thing but I'm not sure why people include pictures of their children without them in it. It's not like we're going to evaluate you by your children to see if your ex was cute and if you have the genetics for cute kids.

4. Don't do it....now matter what the pressure is....don't include the self portrait of your reflection taken in the bathroom. I'm not sure why men have an obsession with doing this but 1 out of 3 guys probably have this picture. Do women do this too? I haven't surfed to find out but maybe it works and I'm the one missing out. Maybe I'll take my camera to Nordstroms for the skinny mirror effect :)

Read more...

A picture speaks a thousand words?

On a casual browse one evening on an LDS dating site I believe I struck gold. After all the guy I am looking at in pictures seems to be perfect. He is local, children raised, close to my age and an active church member. I send him a message. Okay so as most of these encounters go we talk on the phone and wow he seems funny and a little sarcastic which is a must for curious Georgie. I begin to ask him questions about the 25 pictures he has on his profile and I get kind of vague answers on all of them, let me explain. I begin with photo one which is of him in medical scrubs and a stethoscope around his neck and he states that doctoring is what he loves...hmmm I am thinking he must be a doctor right? So I ask...what kind of physician are you and he tells me "I do en do work mostly" allrighty then, I have no idea what that means so I call a friend and she explains it and wow I am impressed. Photo #2 is him standing in front of a new BMW and an airplane...okay with the career part answered I am left to believe he owns his own plane, especially since photos like 3-12 are him in various states of flight. Photos 12-whatever are of him on exotic vacations garbed out in BMW attire ect. And then photos of him on the farm with a big piece of equipment and children and vegetables! Can you see where this may be going? I through pictures was led to believe that this guy was 1. a doctor 2. owned his own plane 3. lived on a farm or a least owned one and 4. had young children. What DR. Boy didn't count on was me knowing his sister and her family! Now the truth comes out and boy did it come out.
1. medical assistant (still a great career but why lie about it)
2. friends plane
3. lives with mom and dad
4. not active in church
5. parents farm
6. friends children
7. LOOSER

Read more...

online LDS dating

On every 'Meet and Greet' there are so many differences in Men. Some men hug when they meet you, others shake your hand, others stand quite a ways back and inevitably there is always the close talker with bad breathe. Even in the way they ask you out differs. Some ask over an email, some over the phone and most recently I've lined up two dates with the same guy through text messages (we'll call him textman in the future) never having talked with him.

Most men prefer something easy and light for the meet and greet. Lunch is perfect in my opinion. Short and sweet and you definitely know if you're interested from just one hour of talking and eating....or awkward silences while you slowly chew your food. I always meet at a specific location though several guys have been willing to pick me up. Hello people!! You could be a psycho killer so don't let them know where you live out of the shoot.

After, it's always that lingering goodbye stage that defines what will happen next. Some men shake your hand again, others hug, and some probably want to run as fast as they can to get away.......especially from me.......who probably filled in those awkward silences with bad small talk and silly stories. It's one of my talents for sure.

What is the norm for all this? What happens with other people? Are the meet and greet as awkward for them as they are for me? I hate blind dates and I prefer meeting quicker in person than having a cyberspace relationship. Nothing says chemistry than a face to face contact. You can learn more by your first impression than months of getting to know each other through emails and instant messages.

Let us know your experience so I'm not left in the dark. Maybe I'm doing it all wrong :)

Read more...

On LDS singles there is a 'interview' portion of the profile that asks what is your ideal first date. Personally I don't count the 'meet and greet' as a first date but according to some guys, they count it as a lead up to the big kiss (if they even make it that far.) However a date is truly an outing, and activity and yes as some people prefer......a sporting event. If paying close attention to anything other thing than my picture in my profile one would read ideal date.......Dinner and a movie......the classic of all first dates. Unless I'm a fan...a sporting event is about the last thing I'd want to go to when never have met a person before.

Recently while OUT OF STATE I got a call from a guy who had tickets to a Lakers game and wanted me to go with him. I was told by him and by several other people that I had to go and that there was no way I could turn the opportunity down. B-Ball-Boy as he will now be called told me that the girl he was planning on going with had a last minute change of plans and since he knew I was in California (yes he's from SLC and flew down just to meet this girl) he thought he'd give me a try. I was totally upfront with him and told him I wasn't a basketball fan and usually attend one a year just to get my fill. He didn't mind and off I went.

It was awkward. Granted a first date but ultimately the meet and greet from online dating. A hotel lobby rendezvous with small talk and excitement for him to get to the game. The seating was good and I did google on the way to see who was playing (I know I'm truly out of touch with the sports world, though I had know clue what city the Rockets were from until we got there).

Fun yes....but for a first date....absolutely not. We could have stayed and talked at his Hotel but by the time traffic cleared and I headed back to my parents it would be way to late for this early riser. No kiss, just a weird hug, and the promise he'd call me again. I'm okay if he doesn't......I would hate to be invited to another sporting event...I've had my fill of hot dogs and over crazed fans...and yes I'm referring to B-Ball-Boy.

Read more...

The Meat and Potatoes of Being Single

As much as both Curious Georgie and I have our adventures we also have and experience the real life of being single. It isn't always about dates and going out but rather the day to day of feelings of what has happened. We ultimately are wading alone in the waters of celestial marriages, a family centered religion, and the crazy world that we live in.

We are not the first to tread these waters, nor will we be the last. We hope that this blog will offer support for any of those who feel alone, or feel that their world has caved in. Many have built their lives around "single" and as much as this label defines them it is not the life they would choose. Some enjoy the recreation of dating and ample free time to do as they want. Others won't stay single long and will move on in their lives as quickly as they came. Whatever it may be we hope to offer a distraction here at FUNPOT to your normal everyday lives. Because after all....we've learned that nobody is exactly normal and everybody needs to know they are not alone.

Happy Mother's Day to all of you. I wish you a beautiful day wherever you may be. ~Wanda

Read more...