Facebook Frenzy

So facebook has become a phenom which most mormons embrace. It's not 'myspace' and is a little bit more private and professional. It's 100% okay and I see nothing wrong with it. The church has not denouced facebook in any way. My sis-in-law disapproves but that's a whole nothing issue in itself.

Facebook also has become a hub of LDS single networking. I'm sent invites for activites and invitations to join groups. I fall into the "mid single" category and I love that fact that they have this. They have events, dances, firesides, lunches etc etc etc. You don't even have to know anybody you just have to search under facebook and find your local LDS single site and invite yourself. A great resource to use to make new friends and get yourself out there. There are facebook groups in every city and if not in yours than you should take the incentive and create one. The best thing about facebook.......You can also surf the pictures.

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Dee's Dance Review

So I did it. I did what I said I would never do. I went to the dreaded dance. Despite the fact that Curious Georgie had an awful experience at her first time, she is the one who FYI'd me to dances here in Utah called "Dee's Dances." I had asked other people and they had said they were indeed better than church dances, so when my girlfriend from my ward asked me to go I was somehow willing to go check it out. So here's my review. Keep in mind, I did go with very low expectations.

• The dance itself was outside at trolley square. Great Atmosphere is always a plus.


• I personally didn't like the DJ because I thought he played too much R&B/hip hop vs rock and country and it just isn't' my style. Maybe people don't care or don't appreciate the art of dancing like I do.


• The food was good (most men commented to me how good it was so this must be a factor in why they choose Dee's Dances over Church sponsored) and nothing to complain about. Costco shoppers for sure.


• The price is $9. I thought this was a little expensive but I am known to be cheap and haven't paid for dancing entertainment in many many of years. After all, it's not a cultural hall.


• Plenty of people attended and every woman would have had the opportunity to dance and enough people were there that you didn't get to check out the majority.


• Age was all over the map. I was definitely on the younger side and 65 was the higher side. Fit in that average in between....it's perfect.

I danced with of course.....tons of weirdos. Plenty of characters to compete with all the horror stories I've heard from others. There were a handful of cute men. Tons of normal men....and three handfuls of 'certifyables' (these were my dancing partners). Would I go again? Sure, but I would definitely go with the same expectations of not meeting anyone. So if you don't mind dancing with strange characters and just like to get out and boogie. It's perfect for you. Take some girlfriends and go.

My next thing to conquer.............The horrid church dance.

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Snafu should be my middle name

So here is the question of the day. Wild Wanda had a little bit of stress this weekend and found it a very thought provoking and tell tale sign of personalities. I left my cell phone and wallet in somebodies car! To be exact.... a dates car, of whom I have been out with several times. Now my first thought was to call him, but I didn't have his number. I usually just get it off my call list. Then my thoughts raced......He would find out that I didn't have him programmed in. Not a big deal really because I don't do this with anybody I date until three months into a relationship which is my d-day time. Then my mind really raced......My text messages! My wallet became the least of my worries.

Now here is where you really learn a great deal about yourself and others. I panicked. I mentally took note of all my text messages stored in my phone. Months of received and months of of sent messages. My secrets (at least that's how I felt) would be exposed and the worst part about it is that I didn't want this particular phone snatcher to get his feelings hurt or rather myself to be embarrassed. I thought about if the situation was reversed. Would I check somebodies phone if they left it in my car?

What I concluded is that it completely depends on whose phone was left. For example....if it were somebody like "Pancake Man" who wasn't honest and always was hiding something from the beginning, then I would take the opportunity of being that fly on the wall and have my questions answered. However if it were a sweet guy like "text message boy" I probably would respect his privacy like I know he would respect mine. I guess it is indeed quite the invasion of privacy and that's why I was so nervous. Phones are like a diary of our lives. Our calendars, emails, pictures and more. I don't even think I deleted the messages from that perverted "sexter" I ran across either. I hope he at least noted I didn't reply.

Whatever the answer may be it all lies with respect. If I feel somebody would respect me than I more than likely will give it in return. How about you? What would you have done in this situation. I'd love to hear the absolute truth. Take the poll or leave a comment.

And for all you worry warts who wonder about my phone. I did get it back.......................................I texted myself :)

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"the big dipper"

I can't really call him the old man because it would truly give him no justice. He was refined, good looking, charming, and one smooth operator. As we sat and talked his piercing aqua blue eyes against his silver hair seemed to draw me in a little farther with each moment of passing silence. I'd inevitable look away but his eyes never left. I made all the typical observations as you would when meeting anyone for the first time. The hug upon meeting me and how he held me longer and closer around the waist than needed, his shoes that were definitely younger than his age, and his west point physique that he obviously took pride in all these years later. He was direct in his questions, his interest, and his goals of which I totally appreciate. He was a catch.

It was a good date and it actually surprised me. He was using the best of both worlds to his advantage. His wisdom and experience (his age) and his innate youthfulness to gain the appreciation of a younger woman. I found myself wondering why all men aren't this smooth and when talking about it with another guy (a man technically but he's not quite there) he told me that "the big dipper" had to be smooth if he wanted to woo the younger woman. He'd just perfected the art. Was that his only goal or would he have acted in such a manner for a woman his own age or even 10 years younger vs. 20. Class is class and it can't be taken away. Despite what my younger friend thought...."the big dipper" had sex appeal and you can't take that away from him.

At the end of the day, my date and I are at different stages in life. He's a new grandparent and loving every minute of it. I'm still wanting more kids and embracing being a step parent. Though his presence was tempting to say the least, I'm not ready to be called nana. A great experience and I'm sure I'll call him when I'm in town again but until then.........I guess I'm stuck with the unrefined and more appropriate men. At least for my age.

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I date, therefore I google

In the year 2009 we have technology at our fingertips....and I truly mean at our fingertips. In the Internet age we can gather information for just about anything, and from just about anywhere. I think it's fair to say that the dating world has changed and that we aren't in Kansas anymore. There is more fraud, more scams, and more psychos to stay clear of.....And what do I have to say about that.

THANK GOODNESS FOR..................

If I have interest in you. I'll look you up. And if I don't find you on first attempt then I'll try try again (using bing or other search engines). At first one might think I'm obsessed or a even a bit of a stalker, however I'm just weeding out the bad from maybe the not so bad. I've giving myself useful information that you maybe won't dish out yourself. A little information never hurt anyone. It's not like I'm running their credit. But hey...that's not a bad idea either :)

Here are just a few things I have found out about some of the guys I have met.

- Address (still living with parents are we)

- Arrest for disorderly conduct (newspaper articles stay online for what seems eternity)

- Facebook Friends - a common friend will dish the real scoop!

- Posted YouTube videos - the good and the bad

-Employment History

- Candidacy for major

- Personal websites...for business or blogging.

-Real Estate complaints from unhappy clients

This might seem a little obsessive but I'm weeding out the bad. It's all from typing in the first and the last name. People have done it to me.....so why shouldn't I do it to them. After all, Curiosity killed the cat. The moral of the story is.......don't do anything you wouldn't want someone else to find out about. You can't hide anywhere.

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Heartache is inevitable in dating. You like someone and they don't like you. Someone likes you and you don't like them. You have secret crushes, you fall in love, and their response back isn't what you have hoped. It's the dating game and though it isn't fun it is necessary to risk that pain for joy that could be yours in the future.

I do believe in love. There is nothing wrong with it. Although I don't need a man in my life, I certainly want and welcome one into it. I don't look too hard for it but when it happens I appreciate it. I don't fall in love easily and recently something of the sort happened to me. I liked the guy.....I honestly did. I fell in love despite my mind pulling me in the opposite direction. I knew he wasn't into me from the beginning. His actions proved that to me but yet I still wanted to give it a chance. Why? Because I'm not going to regret letting any guy go without thoroughly knowing he's not the one for me.

A friend used to tell me in college that within three dates you know if you could have a future with that person. I used to laugh and tell him that it was impossible to get to know someone in that time. However this second time around, I see it so much differently. I'm not into passing time and yes, within three dates and the right questions I can tell if there would be a future.

Now my recent heartache proves that risk is still involved. It doesn't mean that there will be a future on date #4 but it does mean that I'm continuing for a reason. I've passed time with so many men in my life and nothing beneficial came from it. I don't need a man, I just appreciate love. I'm a long term, loyal kind of girl and I'm not going to make the same mistake twice. I went on one too many dates with my ex-husband only because I didn't want the burden of causing him heartache. I can appreciate being dumped, the niceties that go along with it, not knowing the true reasons, second guessing yourself.....etc. etc. I just wish it didn't hurt so bad. But that indeed is the dating game and that's where I am in life. I'll risk the pain for the eternal joy that the future may hold.

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Tip for the Day

Dear Men of the world,

Please when out of a date or with any woman for that manner, don't check out other women. Don't gawk, eye, check out their cup size, or even imagine whatever you imagine about them. It is absolutely 100% rude. It shows a lot about your character and who you are on the inside. Wouldn't you want to be more discrete about your faults and character? As my dad used to tell his Young Men in his ward when he was a bishop. It's natural to notice but it's wrong to keep looking.

For goodness sakes. I'm not a jealous lady or insecure with who I am but I certainly am not going to run out and get a boob job for you to notice me. You're not worth it. You already revealed your character or lack thereof.

Sincerely, (and sayonara dude!)
Wanda

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Baby Steps People

I did it! I sent an email back to a guy. Now I'm sure it sounds like an easy thing to do but I totally am not into the online thing so it was definitely putting myself out there. He sent me his email and telephone number (like I would ever call...maybe that's why I don't have dates :0). He's cute and he totally started the email convo with a skiing story. HELLO!!! I hate winter...but yet that is how these guys are breaking the ice. Telling me how great the powder is. Can't I find a guy who endlessly loves summer? Oh well, back to the issue at hand. Appetizer #9, I'll wait for your reply

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